Embracing the Post-Holiday Blues and
Setting Intentions for the New Year
Ah, the holidays. They’re a swirl of lights, laughter, and connection—a beautiful chaos that leaves us filled and, let’s be honest, a little spent. Then, suddenly, it’s over. The decorations come down, the music stops, and the world feels quieter, maybe even too quiet. It’s not unusual to feel a sense of emptiness or even sadness once the festivities fade. That feeling? It’s what is called the Post-Holiday Blues. But don’t worry—it’s not a sign that something is wrong. In fact, it’s an invitation to reflect, reset, and realign with what truly matters to you. Let’s talk about how you can use this time to nurture your Self and start the year with clarity and purpose.
Why Do We Feel This Way After the Holidays?
It’s no wonder the post-holiday blues sneak in. For weeks, life is all about connection, celebration, and a flurry of activity. Then, like a snowstorm clearing, everything quiets. That contrast can feel like a jolt to your system. You might even miss the hustle you thought you were tired of. On top of that, there’s the looming “New Year” vibe—the world seems to shout, “Be better! Do more! Set big goals!” It can all feel like a bit much.
But let me tell you something: feeling a little down after the holidays isn’t something to “fix.” It’s a signal. It’s your body and mind saying, “Hey, let’s pause for a moment.” Instead of fighting it, lean into it. Let’s explore what this feeling might be trying to tell you.
Pause and Allow Yourself to Feel
First, give your Self permission to feel exactly how you’re feeling. Maybe you’re sad, tired, or even relieved that the holidays are over. Or maybe it’s all of the above. Whatever it is, it’s okay. You don’t have to snap out of it or rush into the next thing.
Find a quiet moment, maybe with a journal or a cup of something warm, and let your thoughts flow. Write down how you’re feeling without judgment. Don’t try to make sense of it right away—just let it be. Sometimes, simply naming what we’re experiencing takes the edge off. Think of it as giving your Self space to breathe after the whirlwind of the holidays.
Reflect on the Year That’s Passed
This quiet post-holiday time is perfect for looking back on the year. I don’t mean just ticking off what went right or wrong, though. I mean truly reflecting. What brought you joy? What challenged you? Or, what surprised you about your Self? Think about the moments that made you smile, even if they were small, and the times you grew, even if it didn’t feel good in the moment.
Reflection isn’t about judgment or regret—it’s about understanding. Maybe you learned that you’re stronger than you thought. Maybe you realized you need to set better boundaries. Whatever it is, let these insights guide you forward. They’re clues to the life you’re building, one moment at a time.
Set Intentions, Not Resolutions
Here’s the thing about resolutions: they can feel rigid, like a list of demands you’re supposed to meet perfectly. And let’s be honest—life rarely works that way. Instead of resolutions, try setting intentions. Intentions are about direction, not perfection. They’re about how you want to feel and what kind of energy you want to bring into your days.
For example, instead of saying, “I’ll lose ten pounds,” you might say, “I CHOOSE to nourish my body with movement and food that feels good.” It’s kinder, more flexible, and leaves room for the unexpected. Write your intentions somewhere you’ll see them often—on a sticky note, in your journal, or even as a reminder on your phone. They’re your gentle guide, not a strict rulebook.
Reconnect with Simple Joys
Sometimes, after the sparkle of the holidays, everyday life can feel a little dull. This is the perfect time to rediscover the small joys that ground you. Maybe it’s curling up with a book, taking a long walk, or savoring a quiet moment with your morning coffee. These aren’t just “little” things—they’re the threads that weave a life full of meaning and contentment.
Give your Self permission to slow down and enjoy these moments. The holidays may be over, but joy is always available to you in the here and now.
Build on the Energy of Connection
One of the best parts of the holidays is how they remind us of the value of connection. But connection doesn’t have to end when the decorations come down. Think about the people who matter most to you and find ways to stay in touch. Maybe it’s a quick text to let someone know you’re thinking of them or a coffee date to catch up. These small gestures keep the warmth of the season alive and remind you that you’re never truly alone.
Give Yourself Grace
If the new year feels slow to start, that’s okay. Not every day needs to be productive or perfect. Sometimes, the most important thing you can do is be patient with your Self. Growth doesn’t follow a calendar, and January 1st isn’t some magical starting line. Your journey unfolds in its own time, at its own pace.
When you catch your Self feeling like you “should” be doing more, take a slow breath. Remind your Self that rest and reflection are part of the process. You’re doing just fine, exactly as you are.
A Final Thought
Post-holiday letdown isn’t something to dread. It’s a pause—a chance to reset, reflect, and reconnect with what’s important to you. Let this be a time of gentle beginnings. Instead of rushing into big plans or chasing perfection, focus on what feels true and right for you. Every day is a chance to grow, to learn, and to step closer to the life you’re creating. And you? You’re doing beautifully, one small step at a time.
