Finding Connection and
Comfort this Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving is traditionally seen as a time of togetherness, where family and friends gather to share gratitude and celebrate. But for many, Thanksgiving can feel lonely and isolating. Maybe you’re far from loved ones, or perhaps you’ve lost someone close, making the holiday feel particularly heavy. If that’s you this season, remember—you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people experience similar emotions during the holidays, and it’s completely natural.
You Are Not the Only One
During Thanksgiving, it can feel like everyone around you is enjoying perfect family moments, yet that’s not the reality for so many. If you’re missing out on those gatherings or are unable to be with friends and family, it’s okay to feel sad or even lonely. There are many people just like you who are facing similar circumstances. Maybe they live far from family, have limited social connections, or simply can’t be with loved ones due to circumstances beyond their control. Remember, you’re not alone in this feeling, and there’s comfort in knowing others understand.
You might be surprised how reaching out to a friend or online community—even one you don’t know very well—can help. Sharing your experience can remind you that there are others out there who feel the same way, and it often brings a sense of warmth and connection. In those small exchanges, loneliness can begin to feel a little less overwhelming.
Nothing is “Wrong” with You
The holiday season brings its own set of expectations and pressures, especially when it comes to themes of togetherness and gratitude. It’s easy to feel like something is “wrong” if Thanksgiving doesn’t match the cheerful images we see around us. But feelings of loneliness or sadness aren’t about right or wrong; they’re simply reflections of what we’re going through. For some, this season can magnify those emotions, especially if you’re missing family, grieving a loss, or don’t have a strong support network nearby.
Accept your emotions as they come, without judgment. Sadness, loneliness, or any other emotion you feel—each one is valid. This Self compassion can be a powerful tool in creating a holiday that respects where you’re at emotionally. It’s okay to feel exactly as you do.
What You CAN Do
Navigating Thanksgiving alone can feel daunting, but there are small, meaningful steps you can take to make it more comforting. Everything begins with a bit of awareness and intentionality.
Reach Out
Even if you can’t be with loved ones physically, try to connect with them in ways that feel natural. A phone call, video chat, or even a thoughtful message can bring a sense of closeness. Sharing a few words, memories, or simply talking about your day can ease feelings of isolation. If there are friends you haven’t spoken to in a while, reaching out can be a wonderful way to reconnect.
Volunteer or Join a Community Event
Helping others can also bring a sense of connection and fulfillment. Many communities hold events or volunteer opportunities during the holidays. By attending or volunteering, you not only get the chance to help others but also open up the possibility of meeting new people who may share your experiences. This could be something as simple as volunteering at a soup kitchen, joining a local Thanksgiving event, or attending an online gathering if in-person events aren’t feasible.
Self Care is Essential
One of the kindest things you can do is create moments of comfort for your Self. Treat yourself to a favorite meal, watch a beloved movie, or engage in any activity that brings you joy. This time doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s Thanksgiving. Maybe it’s a quiet day reading, cooking, or simply spending time with your thoughts. By honoring what feels good to you, you give your Self a holiday experience that’s tailored just for you.
What You CAN Do Differently This Time
If you’re feeling up to it, consider connecting with others who may also be spending Thanksgiving alone. Friends, acquaintances, or even colleagues might be in a similar situation. Hosting or attending a “Friendsgiving” gathering can create a warm space where everyone feels included. A shared meal or a casual get-together—even if virtual—can create a holiday experience that’s about connection and kindness.
Sometimes, organizing a virtual gathering can bring that needed feeling of togetherness. Set up a time to video chat with family or friends, and maybe even share a virtual meal or toast together. A “digital feast” can be a wonderful way to keep traditions alive, even if you’re not physically together. It might not be the same as being in person, but it can still feel meaningful and help bridge the distance.
Gentle Reminder
Feelings of loneliness are normal, especially during Thanksgiving, and they don’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Be gentle with your Self, and recognize that many others share similar feelings. By taking steps to connect—whether through a phone call, a volunteer event, or a bit of Self care—you can create a holiday that honors your experience.
Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be traditional to be meaningful. Small actions, like reaching out or creating comforting moments for your Self, can bring a sense of peace. This year, let Thanksgiving be a day that meets you where you are, helping you feel more connected to others and more caring toward your Self.